But, I think much of it is extremely inaccurate.

LSE or Low Self-Esteem is one such word. It SEEMS to describe a personality trait (or function/behavior) but it is really not descriptive.

I’ve been telling friends/puas/students for awhile now to NOTICE how MOST of the people at bars are LSE. In EVERY instance I’ve shared it they have come back to me saying something like this, “Holy shit man! How the fuck did I miss that?”

The reason lies in the concept and the vocabulary. It has NOTHING to do with esteem.

Here’s the dictionary def:

–noun
1. a realistic respect for or favorable impression of oneself; self-respect.
2. an inordinately or exaggeratedly favorable impression of oneself.

WTF does that mean? Sure we can think we know what it means but it is so ultimately non-descriptive that when you try to dig deeper into solutions you quickly discover how meaningless it is.

There is, however, an often used phrase in The Community that is more functional and more descriptive than LSE. In fact, if I had it my way I’d say let’s strike LSE out of the Canon and just use Approval Seeking or Seeking Approval.

That’s right on the fucking money.

Everybody is Seeking Approval. And, when do you feel more approved of than when a member of the opposite sex wants to have sex with you?

Letting the girl KNOW you APPROVE OF her as a female and APPROVE OF her as a sexual being is the end-all of Sexual Framing.

Here’s the kicker.

Think about a time when you did something you felt proud of yourself about… something you really gave yourself a nice big pat on the back about. Maybe you felt great when graduated college… Got a promotion at work… Got a girl you thought was out of your league…

Now, ask yourself where did those feelings come from (literally)?

Inside you.

If you weren’t feeling them one second and you were the next second, where did they REALLY come from?

You.

So, who gave you the Approval?

You did.

If you gave yourself the Approval, who was holding the Approval away?

You were.

We’ve been conditioned by Society to get approval OUTSIDE. Of course. How else could you Mass Control everyone?

If everyone gave themselves approval they would give everyone else approval, too. This would SEVERELY reduce all other problems. People who approve of themselves DO NOT do destructive things.

(The mind, being linear, treats other people like you treat yourself and vice versa.)

On the other side, can you see that you’ve been giving yourself disapproval? And, because you’ve been disapproving of yourself it has caused an intense craving for approval inside you?

And, knowing yourself intimately, could you see how someone else (a complete stranger) would be hesitant to give you approval IF your behavior, speech, mannerisms and body language gave them the intuitive impression-feeling that you disapproved of yourself?

Could you decide (right now, as best you can) to stop disapproving of yourself?

Then, could you decide (right now, as best you can) to give yourself approval?

Could you DECIDE to do it for no reason?

Don’t do it for anyone else. Do it for yourself. Decide now to approve of yourself.

This constant seeking of happiness OUTSIDE of you is what Buddha was talking about when he said things like, “Attachment to Desire (craving) is the root of all suffering.”

Going even deeper, Buddha’s “Twelve Links of Causation” start off with Ignorance.

Ignorance of what? Ignorance that you are a complete, infinite Being already. (Even if you don’t feel like one, act like one or think like one… what separates you from knowing it is FEELINGS and THOUGHTS… relinquish those and you’re done.)

Giving yourself Approval is a NATIVE ability and it’s only a decision. Everyone can do it.

When you get your own approval back, you can approve of others fully BECAUSE of who they are, not IN SPITE of who they are.

Then, people will gravitate towards you magnetically because they sense intuitively that you ARE closer to your innate being and everyone is trying to get BACK to that state.

But, it all starts with YOU.

If you can feel Superior to someone you can feel Inferior to someone. Both are Ego functions, and they can’t exist separately.

Remember in my post LR: Juggs how I THOUGHT the girl was being bitchy? And, remember how I made the decision to quit being so smart and allow it to be other than what I thought it was…

…and it turned out to be very different?

Well, I’m going to propose that you think about, consider, ponder, contemplate the idea that MOST of the negative experiences (and even NO-GO sets) you’ve had (or imagine having) with women are due to your MISTAKING her Low Self-Approval statements and behaviors for stuff that is consistent with “Your Story.”

It’s actually pretty comical from my new viewpoint.

You put a bunch of people in the room who don’t know how to love themselves… give them a shitload of alcohol, turn up the music so loud you can’t even think (let alone talk) and then you expect them to get together…

… the fact that people DO IT every night across the world is a testament to how compelling and pervasive this need for Approval is.

Anyway, that’s a very SLIGHT and basic groundwork into the newer AA stuff I’ve been working on… this has to be understood before the processes can be taught and have an effect.

What if, instead of asking you to give yourself approval, I had asked you to give yourself some Esteem?

Not quite the same effect is it? Now, imagine developing, describing and constructing exercises to help people “get it” while using bad naming all the way through.

The entire Community’s vocabulary and conceptual framework was built haphazardly over years by guys who didn’t get it… by guys who were still trying to figure it out.

Is it any wonder it’s such a mess?

~ CJ ~

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The end result was the Same Night Lay technology that makes Day2s almost unnecessary. And, even when you need to resort to a Day2 its pretty much a slam dunk lay.

One thing I HAVE NOT mentioned is the other tool that allowed me to create SNL technology (or as Ali G would say, “Tecmology”)

That is the tool of Presuposition Busting, extremely similar (and inspired by) Goldratt’s Evaporating Clouds technique.

When I was first learning the MM model the idea that getting girls to go home with you the same night was considered rare and “fools mate” or not “tight game.”

The quickest way to create a fantastic model is to start with your goal and then list what you believe the constraints are…

Then, you systematically examine the presuppositions by asking “Why?” or “What makes me think that?” In this way, you are challenging the very foundations of the system.

The presupps (and the tactics/methodology that implement them) CREATE the characteristics of the system, positive and negative.

When brought to light you may discover that you actually don’t believe the presup at all, it exists because of society programming or whatever.

People get stuck in a rut when they use experience to “prove” something is the way it is while not realizing that their very experience was the effect of the presuppositions. (i.e. The presupps become self-fulfilling prophecies in your experience.)

As an example, Mystery’s 7 Hour Rule. What most people don’t realize is that (very) long time frame was arrived at anecdotally. He asked the other PUAs what their meet-to-lay time frames were and it seemed that most fell between 4 and 10 hours.

These were all indirect PUAs so they were using his Method (or something close). One of the fundamental presupps in Mystery Method is women need a certain amount of Comfort before sex. So, we have PUAs all over the world bouncing girls from the club to the after hours diner – thus ADDING a couple hours to the timeline.

Notice also that “a certain amount of Comfort” is not a precise description by any means. Contrast this with the explicit steps and fundamental principles in Breakthrough Comfort and you’ll begin to understand the value of precise definition and identification of core principles.

Another presup in almost all of Gaming is that females aren’t as interested in sex as males are. (If you believe that ask yourself, “What makes me think that?”)

There is a MOUNTAIN of scientific evidence that actually points the other way. But, if this was/is your presup, how would that affect your Game?

So, right now, I am examining every single presup in the community regarding meeting, attracting and seducing women and reformulating. It’s a grand experiment and cool things are happening. In the last 10 days I’ve been opened well over 12 times. I’ve had 4 girls number close me.

Are those spectacular results? No. Had I been running my usual stuff I might’ve racked up 2-3 lays in that time frame. (To be fair, though, I did lose 2 girls at the last minute who were almost sure SNLs.)

I got opened twice last night. I lost one girl because I violated Metaframe Consistency (more on that in a future post) and the other waited an hour to open me and was so drunk by the time she opened that I couldn’t do much besides number close her. She texted twice and called me this morning.

I believe all great breakthroughs come by questioning presups. (Or, are created by outsiders who never adopted the presups.)

~ Captain Jack ~

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Force*21 Is not a bunch of theory. It is not a bunch of rehashed techniques. It is the application of my newest technology to YOUR Game with me as a guide.

It will crack the back of your most persistent sticking points and spring you to the next level.

I want you to have my new technology.

I want you to get to this level, too.

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I’m not the bragging type but I do believe I have just as good a shot as anyone out there with the hottest girls.

I think my nights of NOT gaming stem from something else…some weird issue I haven’t fully grasped yet.

Like I’ve said a few times, I believe Nov. 2006 was the last of my Outer Game sticking points (culminating with LMR SP). I have the tactics/techniques down.

My last remaining issues are InnerGame related.

I know some Keyboard Jockey will try to tell me I should’ve STARTED with InnerGame but I beg to differ.

And, I have a black belt in this area. Everything from Huna (certified in Huna by Dr. La Tourrette) to NLP (Bandler on 4 occassions), Energy Psychology and a bunch of other cool shit.

I’ve been able to use those technologies to do a lot of wondrous things for myself and others. And, I’m still looking for ways to use them.

Every moment you put off getting real world experience to work on your “InnerGame” is a minute your life is slipping by.

I don’t think you can even truly know what your InnerGame issues ARE until you have ironed out your OuterGame for at least a year or two. No one has any business working on InnerGame until they’ve done about 1000 sets.

Until then you don’t even KNOW what your InnerGame SP’s are…you only have fear, laziness, excuses and technical shit to deal with until then…

I wish I could tell all of you to just be cool and confident and talk to people. But, I’d be doing you a disservice. I’d be betraying you. I’d be coddling you like babies, instead of treating you like Men.

Women can ONLY respond to your Style and your Behaviors. She can’t see inside to your InnerGame. She can’t see into your soul. She can only see what you demonstrate visibly for her.

I’m wrestling with InnerGame demons. But, ONLY the ones that prevent me from doing what I already know how to do WHEN I want to do it. Any InnerGame issues that don’t directly affect my behavior don’t matter, they are background noise.

These InnerGame SP’s are my last thing to conquer. I’m taking them down the same way I took down my OuterGame tactical SP’s – one by one (see “Sticking Point Analysis”). There’s no way they can last. I’ll root out each and every one of them.

~ Captain Jack ~

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Crack the Back of Your Most Persistent Sticking Points, Go to A Level Never Seen Before...

 

I have created a program to help you crack the back of your most persistent sticking points. It is called Force*21 and it has the potential to spring you to the next level in a mere 21 days.

Force*21 Is not a bunch of theory. It is not a bunch of rehashed techniques. It is the application of my newest technology to YOUR Game with me as a guide.

It will crack the back of your most persistent sticking points and spring you to the next level.

I want you to have my new technology.

I want you to get to this level, too.

>>> Click Here to Learn More About Captain Jack's FORCE21 Program <<<

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