Getting Women to Approach You and The Recognition of Non-Verbal Communication on a Gradient Scale
So, last Saturday night I get the urge to go out.
But, before I tell you the story, I need to give you a bit of background: One of the tenets of the scientific method is that if you have a theory that explains a piece of data you should be able to PREDICT something you haven’t previously noticed. If the thing you predicted can be verified in the real world then you gain more confidence in your theory and may even come upon new sources of data that will further expand your research, yielding better theories, yielding better principles, yielding more vagina. (I added that last part).
One of the theories that I derived is that women consider the opening of courtship to occur LONG before what we consider to be the opening of courtship. How many women COMPLAIN that men just don’t get it… that the WRONG men approach them, that men approach them in the WRONG way.
Well, shit, pretty much ALL of them.
We know that women don’t really have ‘physical’ types that have any real meaning in a one-on-one seduction like men do.
So, what (the fuck) are they talking about?
If the WRONG men approach them then there must be RIGHT men. Who are these RIGHT men?
Remember how before the community you were pretty damn invisible to all women except maybe some random encounter you chalked up to an accident or, perhaps, a few girls in your social circle.
You didn’t know about Approach Invitations (AIs) and never even noticed them… and, if a girl did look your way you wondered if there was toilet paper stuck to your shoe or there was something wrong with your hair…
… well, what I’m talking about happens EVEN earlier than an AI.
There is a scale of Non-Verbal Awareness that women engage in much, much earlier than men do. (Probably, because we are staring at tits as they float by, or asses as they bob along).
The earlier you become aware of the steps on this scale, the sooner you can begin working it to your advantage. I consistently get opened (and pursued) by women.
This is new technology that I’ve been working on since July of last year and have used successfully in my last 10 or so lays… I want to get it out there so you guys can start experimenting with it. I am going to be talking MUCH more about it in the upcoming FORCE*21 Teleseminar program, including how to use it in ANY environment. I’ve used it at bookstores, gas stations, bars even shopping malls and restaurants. It gets you opened about as much or more as peacocking.
The Gradient Scale of Non-Verbal Communication
1. Extroversion to others and the environment
2. Intention to enter awareness of others (number 1 and 2 are interlocked)
3. Visual scans for awareness of others (you’ve seen this before… a girl is with a group of friends or a guy and as she talks she is looking around the room at others).
4. Exaggerated (or sexual) gestures and/or movement of body position to attract awareness of others
5.Visual focus on other(s)
—–> (could he be a Player in a Game I want to play? (Dynamic 1))
———->If so, give AI.
6. Acknowledgment of the other person’s visual contact
7. A signal of Appreciation for the other person’s contact
——-> (both girls and guys are often not successful with their AIs because they mess these two up)
8. Modification of Body Position in Space towards the person while keeping appreciation signals in
If all you did was noticed number 3 occurring , then locked eyes, acknowledge her eye contact with a smile and reorient your body towards her you’d be so far ahead of every chump in there she’d probably open you.Or, if you simply noticed number 3 occurring and then went and opened your success rate would sky rocket.
Using this simple awareness has gotten me opened more times than I can count now.
If you did this AND opened many sets, you would steal the entire venue.
I did this very thing last Saturday night. There were a few girls having a blast because one the birthday girl was drunk and acting crazy. I noticed one of the girls kept on doing #3.
The second time I noticed she had done it I made sure to be looking her way… she saw me looking… she looked back at her group for another minute or two. By this time I had tilted slightly to see her out of my peripheral. The next time she did #3 she limited her range. I caught her eyes exactly, I locked and gave a slight nod (#6), I smiled (#7), I turned ever so slightly (#8). She smiled back.
About 1 minute later she was standing next to me. But she didn’t say anything.
I smiled real big next time she looked at me… she opened with something lame. We talked. She told me about this game called “words with friend” for the iPhone. I told her my nerd-o-meter was going off big time.
Long story short, it was her way of getting my number.
We have a Day2 set up. (She’s ridiculously hot so I don’t mind doing a Day2).
So, watch for #3 *AND* follow the steps exactly. If THEY are using this formula it is because it matches their reality… if you match it to you are head and shoulders above every other guy in the place.
Captain Jack
P.P.S. FORCE*21 starts on March 11th. It is limited to 30 guys. 10 have already signed up. If you are the least bit interested simply email me captainjackpua@gmail.com with FORCE 21 in the subject line.
P.P.S. I’m also going to be releasing an Extroversion Calibration Drill that you can use to become more extroverted and aware in the next couple of days. Introversion is one of the REAL enemies of every PUA.
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If you are a good looking guy or “stand out” then they will approach you. If you are not then what? This is all nice and good but what if you go thru those steps and she does not open you? What if she is too shy? What if she just is giving you the eye out of curiousity and then does not open you?
There are too many variables here.
Please fill us in on that.
Great stuff as always, CJ! The only thing I’d like to point out is that too many guys seem to try to circumvent approaching by relying on this “let her approach me” attitude and that generally turns out to no success at all.
In my opinion, you can only use that kind of non-verbal stuff once you got the basics (being able to approach) properly down.
Interesting stuff man. What you’re talking about here is actually exactly what Cory Skyy has been talking about for years. Of course, he can’t break things down the way that you can, and his stuff is less scientific and more touchy feely, thus not conducive to learning, but either way, it’s definitely interesting to see somewhat of a convergence between PUA and naturals. All of the best guys in the community essentially admit that naturals are pretty much across the board better than all PUAs, but it seems like you’re approaching being able to teach what naturals do.
“We have a Day2 set up. (She’s ridiculously hot so I don’t mind doing a Day2).”
Day2? What’s going on here? Is CJ in love? Is he getting soft?
Very good post! I do something similar exept that I tend to summon girls over by waving my hand towards myself in a sort of come here motion when ive made eye contact and smiled. Often when I have done this girls wont come over immediatly, but after 5 minutes are curious enough to come and ask me what i want. Thats when i deny calling them over at all and the banter begins…. I would never have thought of the body repositioning though which I am sure i will find very helpful, so thank you muchly for that little golden nugget of knowledge kind sir! I am truly grateful!!!
One of my favourite things is waving to
girl to come over. You gotta do it really
matter-of-fact though like you know she’s
gonna walk over.
You expect it.
But then you gotta calibrate
accordingly cos that was a big
investment for her so early.
Great post.