The Unsatisfiable Hunger
…in the hundreds of questionaires I circulated for Garden, I described myself as an “avid crotch-watcher,” and asked if the reader was too. That question never failed to get a response. Most women wrote that they were crotch watchers too, others said they loved seeing “men’s bottoms,” “examinging their pants to see which leg it hung down in,” or just plain “looking.” — Nancy Friday
…
As I look at those photos, I imagine him teasing me, fingering me to get me going, and then teasing me with just the head of his cock. I don’t know where I get these ideas, as these are not things my husband does to me — I mean, teasing me with his cock… In my fantasy, this man from the pages of Playgirl then licks my tits and belly button until I plead with him to fuck me, and at last he does. — Sally
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But becoming your own woman, becoming highly educated and choosy in your sexual tastes, leaves you vulnerable to loneliness. You can be a virgin and be sexually frustrated. But every experienced woman knows that to have had sex, good sex, and then to have to do without it, leaves even more room for real pain.
In our culture, the pain a woman suffers from sexual deprivation isn’t considered seriously. Not so with me.
…
So he (a guy she was dating) and his friend got me when I went outside to go to the bathroom. I was scared at first, but he kept on saying, “wow, feel this cunt, isn’t this the best cunt you’ve ever felt?” This was before they were inside of me, he was using his fingers and hand. That is when I started getting turned on. Then when he started fucking me, I was lost in sexual pleasure. He kept on talking all the time… By this time, I was starting to scream with pleasure, and he told his friend to keep his hands over my mouth as there were other people around us… When he was done, it was his friend’s turn, and believe me, he was just as good. All the time, they were fucking me, they were talking about my tits and cunt, which made me unafraid and enjoy it… I guess that couldn’t be called a fantasy, as it actually happened, but I often think about it, and then I masturbate.
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Another is that I am being fucked by two guys while my husband is watching. One is shoving his cock down my throat, and the other is sucking my cunt. My breasts are also being massaged. I can’t move because of the size of the cock going down my throat. The two guys agree to come at the same time, so simultaneously, one goes off in my cunt, and the other in my mouth, which I proceed to suck and swallow…
So, those are just a few quotes from “Forbbiden Flowers” by Nancy Friday. It’s a continuation of “My Secret Garden.” For those of you who don’t know, Nancy Friday put an ad in the newspaper asking women to send in their sexual fantasies. She then reprinted them in her book with insightful commentary.
Entering you is one of the biggest sexual rushes for him. It starts out feeling like he’s being cocooned in warmth and wetness, and then the pressure and wetness increase as both of you become more aroused. “His genitals fill with tingly electricity, and he can feel your muscular contractions tightening around him,” says Kanaris. This blissful feeling is intensified by deep thrusting, so try positions that let him get inside you further, such as woman-on-top or doggie-style.
And, that one is from Cosmopolitan Magazine’s March 2009 issue, page 115. This is the stuff they are reading in their spare time! Their circulation is 2.9 million women monthly.
Reading these books along with “Sperm Wars” and “Way of the Superior Man” will give you huge insights into female sexuality.
They are extremely sexual and I URGE you to get in touch with that aspect of them WITHOUT judgment about them.
If you do this something in you changes that women really pick up on. My SNL ability really skyrocketed when I got this… I fought it for awhile because some of the fantasies are utterly shocking (farm animals, etc)… however, it is what it is.
My main point with this is you (like almost every guy) don’t fully grasp just how sexual women really are… Your ideas of female sexuality have been conditioned in haphazardly over time and from a very young age. This affects your behavior, your body language, the tempo of your escalation, the things you try in bed, the subjects you’re willing to broach with them.
Immerse yourself in this information until something snaps mentally and you get it! How will you know when you get it? There is an “Holy fucking shit!” moment and when you go outside into the world you see women at various stages of turn-on as they go about their business.
Captain Jack
P.S. Try not to read this if you are trying to concentrate on something important. Also, make sure there is a bathroom or other private area available. You’ll probably need it. Here’s the entire “Forbidden Flowers” book:
http://www.scribd.com/doc/4548013/Forbidden-Flowers-Nancy-Friday
Do yourself a huge favor and absorb every word.
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Awesome post!
Thinking back on my old mindsets, and even still seeing those old mindsets being present in many of my friends, I can't help but think that a lot of the underestimation and misunderstanding of the female sex drive stems from a madonna/whore complex (which I would assume is learned through socialization and the media).
Men often learn from an early age a viewpoint of female sexuality that favors chasteness. Many men harbor the idea that they want the pure wife without much sexual experience. They cringe from the idea of “sluts”. They often can't comprehend some of the fantasies that women have. They want a woman who is a pure and unsexualized, yet at the same time they hope for that woman's “inner-slut” to suddenly be released only when they come along.
I remember when I was reading this type of stuff, it was tough to comprehend at first. I would often think to myself, “You mean that beautiful, seemingly flawless, girl sitting in the 3rd row of my math class secretly longs to be the center of a 5-man gangbang, sucking dick after dick like she was on some sort of conveyor belt?” Breaking down those paradigms erected in our mind from society is earth-shattering at first, if for no other reason than what we have learned is often the total opposite of reality.
And realistically, if you are able to subjugate your emotions and look objectively at sexuality, is there any reason why women should not be very different than men? Any man would leap at the opportunity to have 5 other women in bed with him; is it really that wrong for a woman to have similar sexual thoughts? The double standard is just that, and it doesn't stand up to the scrutiny of reality.
Awesome !
” Immerse yourself in this information until something snaps mentally and you get it! How will you know when you get it? There is an “Holy fucking shit!” moment and when you go outside into the world you see women at various stages of turn-on as they go about their business.”
Like the fucking matrix or some shit, just with wet pussies everywhere instead of binary code.
Fantasies
http://www.pandorassecrets.com/
Utero
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Great post.
“They are extremely sexual and I URGE you to get in touch with that aspect of them WITHOUT judgment about them.”
Of course, if women in general are extremely sexual, then there's no “extremely” is there? ;-O
AJ said,
“Thinking back on my old mindsets, and even still seeing those old mindsets being present in many of my friends, I can't help but think that a lot of the underestimation and misunderstanding of the female sex drive stems from a madonna/whore complex (which I would assume is learned through socialization and the media).”
The church has a lot to answer for, but of course they'll evade and call it “morality”.
Thanks for the link. Was familiar with My Secret Garden, but hadn't read this one yet. Downloaded the file and will check it out after my workout.
I'm just about to head off to a valentines day / birthday party so this is an awesome post to get me in state haha
…in the hundreds of questionaires I circulated for Garden, I described myself as an “avid crotch-watcher,” and asked if the reader was too. That question never failed to get a response. Most women wrote that they were crotch watchers too, others said they loved seeing “men’s bottoms,” “examinging their pants to see which leg it hung down in,” or just plain “looking.” — Nancy Friday
I think you've accumulated a lot of good quotes here. Though, I think this particular one says something that is generally avoided in the “community”. The fact is, that women are turned on by male bodies. Too often you hear this sort of mind/body dichotomy nonsense about “confidence” and “alpha” and the stuff in your head accompanied by an eschewal of the physical (aside from maybe some routine fitness), but look what's happening in reality! I don't think men are doing themselves any favors by diminishing the role that male beauty can play in these interactions. Ms. Friday speaks on this in her book. It's not just for gay guys.
I really like the third quote too:
But becoming your own woman, becoming highly educated and choosy in your sexual tastes, leaves you vulnerable to loneliness. You can be a virgin and be sexually frustrated. But every experienced woman knows that to have had sex, good sex, and then to have to do without it, leaves even more room for real pain.
In our culture, the pain a woman suffers from sexual deprivation isn’t considered seriously. Not so with me. (Emphasis added)
Something I just noticed. In that third quote, it actually reads “Not so with men” instead of “Not so with me”.
Simply put. You are the damn best ever PUA. Since you got your shit handled in the bedroom. You know how to lay them. In other words you got unbelievable sexual confidence, which is that makes you sail smoothly throughout the whole pick-up. If you don't have that handled the sex part. Naughtiness, dirty talk, etc…being able to fuck good and give them what they want, you will fail at pick up.
CJ, Please clarify on the above. And suggest more books. I have read these and they are good. I would suggest Daniel Rose sexual revolution and David Shade, you do not need more than that.
The more sexual and powerful you are in bed and can make women cum and the more experienced you are, it will show and the less you need to game. It is an aura , a feeling.
CJ, your comments, please.
Thank you
Regards,
Ziad
OK, Women are sexual creatures,
WHEN, WHAT & HOW do we exploit it?
In A1?
In A2?
Hey CJ,
thanks for sharing this
I did buy Cosmo btw..interesting mag.
Its a difference what guys read and read and to go out and do something about it.
this is AwesomE…
gracias
CJ's Lip ring opener on Sinn…
“Hey is that lip ring real ? ……”
…….and we are off !
Dude DO IT !
horray for dick crack !
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I had no idea of this hunger in women until I got into the community and more so when I read The Way of the Superior Man and Secret Garden.
Once I accepted that I found my confidence skyrocketed because sex was not something I “secretly” desired but the women I was dating actually wanted more than me. It is understood and expected to occur if I handled it well.
I had no idea of this hunger in women until I got into the community and more so when I read The Way of the Superior Man and Secret Garden.
Once I accepted that I found my confidence skyrocketed because sex was not something I “secretly” desired but the women I was dating actually wanted more than me. It is understood and expected to occur if I handled it well.