How to Release Her Inner Sex Fiend
A 44-year old from San Jose, CA asks…
Q: How do you release her inner Sex Fiend?
A: All of sexual framing is designed to get her to be cool with a short-time frame until the first sexual encounter. So, what I’m assuming is that you are asking, “How do you get them to be freaky in bed.” The good news is if you’ve used sexual framing you are 90% of the way there.
First, you’ve demonstrated that she has an abnormally high sex drive.
Second, you’ve told her that she doesn’t REALLY care about society’s rules and regulations regarding sex and sexual relationships.
Third, you’ve told her you’re not judgmental.
Fourth, you’ve told her that you’re good at keeping secrets.
Fifth, you’ve told her that she becomes aggressive when she finds someone she’s really attracted to.
What that has done is created a framework where short time frame sex is acceptable and O.K.
So, you’re most of the way there…
The next part reminds me of a scene in “The Office” where Andy Bernard is trying to get Pam to hook him up with Angela. When Pam can’t think of anything he says, “Well, maybe you should try looking in the smart part of your brain.”
Now, if you want her to get really crazy you need to create another framework where slutiness is OK *AND* it is valued. You’ve got to get her accessing the slut part of her brain and relating it to you.
You can start with the Question Game and make it sexual (if someone wants to post a link to the Question Game in the comments I’ll update the post with it)…
I try one or two sexual questions to see if she reciprocates, if she does I’ll keep going. If not, I’ll match her type of questions and end about 4-6 questions in with Mystery’s Kiss Close as my last question.
A slut type question would be: “What’s something you love to do in bed but are usually too scared to do it or request it?”
Or, you could say something like this, “You should probably leave now… You are so elegant and sexy but I KNOW behind closed doors you’re probably really crazy… I’m thinking handcuffs and whips.”
Or, “I bet it can be frustrating for you sometimes. I bet a lot of guys mistake you for a good girl… not realizing that you just want to be treated respectfully in public, but, they don’t realize you don’t want that behind closed doors… you want to be a bad, bad girl. And, of course, everybody is bad in her own special way…”
Those are all types of comments I make a lot when talking to a girl. I haven’t tried it but I’ve heard about PUAs talking about fetish clubs in set to see if she takes the conversational thread.
In the bedroom…
Once you have her in the bedroom you can say something like, “I want to make you cum hard, but you gotta let me know what you like… now’s not the time to be shy.”
I LOVE it when a girl squirts. I’ve posted quite a few times about how when I started ASKING girls if they could squirt when they come it seemed like almost ALL of them could. Before I started asking them it was almost like it only happened when the girl lost control.
The girls want to do a good job for you in bed. That is why El Topo’s Kung Fu Penis is so awesome. She wants to do a good job BUT she’s not! So, she has to try harder. That means she has to be sluttier.
If you have a question, or you have a tactic you’d like to contribute, post it in the comments.
~ Captain Jack ~
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I know you frame it early with rings on finger but what happens when she's not wearing any rings?
This happened last night to me. She wasn't wearing any rings so I just had to improvise it worked though, but I'm still curious to see if you or anyone else have other alternatives?
Awesome post!
I do it anyway… “What fingers do you normally wear rings on?”
I'dd like to add a comment about pumping her state.
tonight I went out with some male and female friends.
there was one guy in out group who brought a female and they where talking all the time but no kino or any sexual chemistry seemed to be going on between them.
then later in the evening she came up to me and we had a chat.
I talked to her about all sorts of things, but mostly about female sexuality and how it doesn't matter if you want someone to just go for it and not worry about what others may think.
we had kino going on and some good eye contact and actually I think I could and should have made out with her.
then I said something like where are the others at, she responded with yeah I want to know where they're at because I'm not the kind of person who just leaves without letting the others know where I'm going.
So I told her to go look for the others and she asked me to join her.
Soon as she found the guy who invited her to come to the club with us she started to talk with her and within minutes she started to make out with him.
so what I made out of this is that the guy allready built a lot of comfort with her but he didn't try to kiss her and obviously she, being the female, didn't try to kiss him either.
than I pumped her buying temperature and told her it's ok to just go for what you want and didn't make out with her she went to look for the other guy and made out with him right away.
What I'm saying is that if you're pumping her buying temperature you better go for the sale, because if you don't some other guy will do it.
No one said it better than you Captain Jack. All my recent lays have been done with sexual framing and most girls even not the slutty ones go for it if you are subtle enough, I believe it is a bold form of modern flirting for guys who have balls and understand how women work.
I have been reading this blog ever since and I have read the 2005, and 2006 Lay Reports. Awesome, but that is the truth. That is what naturals and gigolos do. I am waiting anxiously for the 2007 lays or even 2008, if these have been compiled. However, Captain Jack don't you think it would be better if you wrote an e-book?
I believe CJ is even better than Mystery. You only get the juice, no peacking and DD Double Your Masturbating mumbo jumbo. I believe you and Vincent DiCarlo and the truest and the ones who are getting results. That's it, everything else is information overload and keyboard jockeying where 95% of wanna be puas are stuck here and worse they don't approach for fear of forgetting a line or routine.
KISS (Keep it Simple Stupid), No one preaches better than CJ. Even on the sexual side ,iow, inside the bedroom he knows he has it handled which improves his game even better since the end result will take care or the entire game, iow, being sexually confident, iow, having good enough sexual experience, without it, nothing happens. that is the truth. You have two or three guys fro sexual mastery (David Shade, Sexual Revolution Dan Rose and Female Orgasm BlackBook), you do not need more than that,
I made the mistake once of getting in too deep with newsletters, blogs, audios, NLP, Cds, videos, seminars, etc….all paid me ZILCHT maybe has 60 GB of material on my hard drive that I never used and which I deleted after a struggle with myself.
Nowadays, I go out, do like CJ, flirty, kino, sexually frame (always) and see where it goes. I carry a condom and some mints always since sometimes you can get freaky in te car
And I am always getting the debrief from girls, and even though I have good looks and dress elegantly, they ALL told me it was your sexual demenour and the confidence you exude. Which can't be further from the truth. I do now understand CJ on the same wavelength. Nice guys are a long long way away even if they wake up some day and realise they were living in Hollywood romantic movies. such a shame!
P.S: Develop that lusty glare, the genuine sly smirk and speak with double entendre while teasing the woman you're talking to thus emphasizing your sexuality.
P.P.S: I think Colin Farrell has it going and any guy who knows women knows Colin. Just read the tabloids, he is one hell of a guy and I try to model him, not Ben Stiller , lol….
ALL HAIL CAPTAIN JACK!
Best regards,
Ziad
“First, you’ve demonstrated that she has an abnormally high sex drive.”
How do you actually “demonstrate” this? Do you use strawberry field for it?
“Fifth, you’ve told her that she becomes aggressive when she finds someone she’s really attracted to.”
I'm rather confused about this one. Do you actually straight out tell her that's she's a sexually aggressive person… sorta like a cold read?
“First, you’ve demonstrated that she has an abnormally high sex drive.”
this is done by the strawberry fields routine.
the number of strawberries indicates her sexdrive, you always say that the number she's picked means that she has a high sex drive.
“you’ve told her that she becomes aggressive when she finds someone she’s really attracted to.”
this is part of the rings on fingers routine.
you say that one of the ring she wears means that she becomes aggressive when she finds someone she's really attracted to.
Thank mmapua!
Is this one part of ring routine as well?
“Second, you’ve told her that she doesn’t REALLY care about society’s rules and regulations regarding sex and sexual relationships.”
nah that's from the strawberry fields routine.
CJ has written about al of this in his previous posts as well.
basically rings on fingers makes you tell 3 things to the girl:
1. she's good at keeping secrets.
2. when she meets someone she likes she becomes sexually aggressive.
3. you're not judgemental.
strawberry fields is about telling a girl:
1. she has high ambitious but they're realistic.
2. she has a high sex drive.
3. she doesn't care about what others think about her.
the thing is that because you talk about these things with these routines you set the right frames for the subcommunication.
basically you want her to feel comfortable enough to share her desires with you.
One of the new features of this blog is the “Disqus” commenting system. You'll notice how mmapua and strife are replying to each others comments and the system is threading them under each other much like a forum.
Something not so obvious, though, are the two little arrows on the left hand side of the person's name. You can use those to vote up or down someone's comment.
~ CJ ~
P.S. Thanks mmapua for helping everyone out with the answers to strife's questions.
“What I'm saying is that if you're pumping her buying temperature you better go for the sale, because if you don't some other guy will do it.”
That's actually a great tactic to use when you are at a venue where the guys approach a lot. Most guys will get blown out or THINK they were blown out but getting hit on STILL pumps her state either way…
This increases her Response Potential. So, when you approach her you actually do better than you normally would've.
You can also notice when a girl's state is pumped while the guy is still in there and enter the set and steal it from the guy.
~ CJ ~
I love this comment. It's straight to the point.
You're welcome.
I recommended you to add a function to make your blog more interactive.
I don’t know if others also recommended this to you, but It's nice to see you've incorporated it.
I hope it brings value to a lot of people.
One of the new features of this blog is the “Disqus” commenting system. You'll notice how mmapua and strife are replying to each others comments and the system is threading them under each other much like a forum.
Something not so obvious, though, are the two little arrows on the left hand side of the person's name. You can use those to vote up or down someone's comment.
~ CJ ~
P.S. Thanks mmapua for helping everyone out with the answers to strife's questions.
“What I'm saying is that if you're pumping her buying temperature you better go for the sale, because if you don't some other guy will do it.”
That's actually a great tactic to use when you are at a venue where the guys approach a lot. Most guys will get blown out or THINK they were blown out but getting hit on STILL pumps her state either way…
This increases her Response Potential. So, when you approach her you actually do better than you normally would've.
You can also notice when a girl's state is pumped while the guy is still in there and enter the set and steal it from the guy.
~ CJ ~
I love this comment. It's straight to the point.
You're welcome.
I recommended you to add a function to make your blog more interactive.
I don’t know if others also recommended this to you, but It's nice to see you've incorporated it.
I hope it brings value to a lot of people.