Sexualizing Your Game: How To’s
Ok, early in my PU career a few things happened that required me to focus on SNL’s. One was that my car blew up on my first f-close out of bootcamp.
The second was, even when I had access to a car, I could get girls numbers and even timebridge’s but I could FEEL on the day2’s that there was no sexual energy so they would drag out to day3’s, day4’s. Naturally, I said “Fuck that shit!”
And, put on my scientist hat to design in-field experiments to 1) Get same night sex because I didn’t know when I’d have access to a car or 2) Make Day2’s little more than coming to my place for sex
Then, I read “My Secret Garden” and “Way of the Superior Man” and both of them rocked my world. Those are must reads for every PUA.
So, how do you get sexual in the sarge? There’s a direct way (which Sinn has been using for a few weeks now and I’m sure he’ll post about it) and then there’s an Indirect way which relies on outside framing ideas and presuppositions (from the Milton Model created by Bandler).
Here’s my normal way of doing it:
Opener…
DHV Spike Stories…
BUT, my DHV spike stories contain references to a past girlfriend who was a dancer. The presups are that 1) she’s hot 2) she can have any guy but she wants me and 3) she’s a very sexual person
At this point, if we’re still talking I do “sleepy eyes” ala ijjjjjji and make my movements slow and deliberate with LOTS of eye contact and shoulder and lower back kino.
At the first opportunity (mini-isolation or full) I run my version of Strawberry Fields. I’m not saying she’s a sexual being. It’s the test!
When I give her the results I often whisper them into her ear with my hand on her lowerback. Then, I push her away.
If this goes well I start bouncing between my comfort stack and more sexual presupps. Usually by this time you can start saying more direct sexual talk (“If your friends weren’t here I’d spank you for being such a bad girl.”)
I think of this as an interlacing spiral moving upwards to sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. Comfort, Sex. In lock-step.
I try to get “Rings on Fingers” in after one comfort routine. “Rings on Fingers” does 3 things:
1) It tells her she is sexually aggressive when she sees someone she’s attracted to…
2) It tells her your are NOT judgmental
3) It says that BOTH of you are good at keeping secrets
The change in her demeanor is visible. If you’ve ever done it you’ll know what I’m talking about. The best way I can describe it is “She softens and then glows.”
Now, if I haven’t gotten the Same Night Lay Logistics info by this time then I make sure to do it now. (look for “Same Night Lay” guidelines to find out those questions)
Next, I’ll start laying down my Identity Stack which includes my Cosmo Routine I based off of Bandler’s SRT. I’ve shared this in my eCoaching program. It MIGHT be on the Lounge as well.
Statements like “I’m trying so hard not to kiss you right now” work well at this point. Kiss tests like going cheek-to-cheek to tell her something can often lead to what appears to be a spontaneous kiss, too.
One way to know if you’re out of lock-step in terms of sexual escalation and comfort is if she says things like, “Don’t you want to know anything about me?” or “I hardly know you.” – throttle back and run some more comfort.
The rest of the logistical info can be found here.
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Great Post !
I also like [framing] things early
Before I cue up my first story that contains a few sexual references
60: Wait a second…you’re not one of those “ewww sex” types are you ?
HB: Nooo !
Once that [frame] is set the door is wide open
60
“BUT, my DHV spike stories contain references to a past girlfriend who was a dancer. The presups are that 1) she’s hot 2) she can have any guy but she wants me and 3) she’s a very sexual person”
A few questions, get to them when you have time, awesome SNL advice by the way!
1)Do you say shes an ‘exotic’ dancer or just ‘dancer’? Also could u hint at how you weave into telling stories about your sexy ex gf dancer so early? i mean i know how to indirectly bring it up, but its harder when its RIGHT away in the first few minutes like you do.
2) Also whats your favorite qualifying line? Beauty is common?
3)It looks like you go into strwberry fields asap when you get mini isolation, so u spend minimal time in attraction and escalate immediately correct?
-JimSmith
JimSmith,
I have a new routine which I’ll post soon. It has been tested at least 15 times with 14 out of 15 positive results so I’m cool to share it.
Basically, if she intros herself I say, “Oh, I have to warn you…I’m REALLY bad at names.”
She’ll usually say something that will allow me to say, “My ex was an exotic dancer and she used to change stage names as much as she’d change her underwear…and…well…you know how when you get someone’s name wrong but it just sticks in your head? Well, her stage name from the first time I met her stuck in my head and I couldn’t get it out. Well, 3 months later we were fucking and I lost control and screamed out her stage name. But, she had FORGOTTEN that was her old stage name! It took me HOURS to calm her down. So, I’m just apologizing in advance….”
Then, I have another about a time when I went to the hookah bar and my ex-girlfriend, a dancer, was EXTREMELY jealous and she started playing with my phone. Well, I thought she was just looking at the pics we took earlier but later that night I looked in my phone and she had DELETED every female number in my phone. Even my sister, mom and grandmom’s numbers! Psycho! And, my friends were like, “Dude! Where do you find these girls?” Honestly, I don’t know…It’s a mystery to me.”
JimSmith, to answer question #2: I use something I call “Subtle Qualification” now which means I listen for her to qualify herself and then bait her into telling me more. BUT, if I need to use Explicit Qualification then I do like the “Beauty is Common” line because I talk about travel a lot in my sarges so it fits with the overall tapestry of my Game.
~ Captain Jack ~
about dhv spikes – did you really had had a dancer gf by the time you would say that? and if you do, it's great, but what if a guy who didnt have a dancer gf, uses a dhv like that, imo it will be pointless
about dhv spikes – did you really had had a dancer gf by the time you would say that? and if you do, it's great, but what if a guy who didnt have a dancer gf, uses a dhv like that, imo it will be pointless
CJ, Can you share the cosmo routine?