[The Asian Playboy] Is Sexual Anxiety Killing Your Results?
The following is a guest article written exclusively for Captain Jack’s Grande Adventures by The Asian Playboy.
~ CJ ~
“90% of intermediate/average level PUAs fail due to Sexual Anxiety (SA).
If you’re reading this, more than likely that percentage includes you. Now is this a hardcore, empirical statistic?
By no means, but it is something I witnessed with incredible regularity with guys (especially Asian men) after they had conquered their Approach Anxiety (AA). They would run smack into a wall and either score through sheer mass of numbers (ie the Approach Machines) or their only successes were through rote, mind-numbing persistance (ie Social Robot).
Hell, I’ll be honest, it took me more than a few months (half a year, I believe) when I started out on this life journey to not only identify that I had that problem, but also how to tackle it. Painful, humbling, but at least I knew I had that problem and it took me several more months to get any kind of decent handle on it.
In my opinion, SA is generally endemic of men who didn’t lose their virginity early on (as many naturals do) and/or did not have the opportunity to achieve sexual experience by building upon lay after lay after lay (again, as many naturals are wont to do).
There’s a reason why the peeps at Project Hollywood were fascinated with NaturalJ who, at the age of 21, had already racked up (or at least claimed) triple digit lays. But I digress.
So let’s take a look. Imagine, what’s the worse thing a girl can do when you approach her?
- Ignore you.
- Insult you.
- Slap or throw her drink in your face.
- Laugh.
- Etc.
Now AA can be easily conquered within one month by performing approaches after approaches at something like 10 sets a night, two to three nights a week, for all four weeks. You can easily rack up 100 repititions that get you inured to social pressure.
You’ll also build a level of social precognition where you “know” what reply to expect from her as well as YOUR appropriate, socially adjusted, humorous response that will keep the interaction flowing.
In theory at least, not everyone succeeds at this (Sorry, I don’t sell pipe dreams. They’re on wholesale next door to Compassionate Conservatism).
Now, what’s the WORSE imagined thing a girl can do to you when you go for the kiss, the makeout, the handjob, the breast touch, the extraction, etc?
- Scream rape.
- Call the cops.
- Knee you in the balls.
- Get her guy friends to beat you up.
- Etc.
So how many opportunities in one month can you realistically put yourself in a sexually charged situation (what I like to call D for Direct Interest in the ABCs of Attraction)?
Compared to mastering AA, an average guy MIGHT achieve a Sexual Escalation Opportunity (ie kiss to actual ejaculation) twice a week (assuming he’s very active and somwhat decent skill) with different women. It would then take him about ONE YEAR to get in the same amount of practice he took to conquering AA with 100 approaches
Or in this case, 100 different, potential opportunities for sexual release under his belt. If practice makes perfect, virgins and the sexually insecure have their work cut out for them.
So therein lies the rub. In order to attain SEXUAL confidence, you need sexual experience through sexual practice. So which came first, the chicken or the egg? Or for thee and thine, your overly active sperm or her willing zygote?
For a lot of intermediate guys, it’s easier just to hammer away at incessantly approaching and building General Attraction (something I consider wholly different from Sexual Attraction) through verbal game without risking life, limb, and fragile gonads by avoiding going in “for the kill.”
After all, there’s a feeling of some measureable progress if you can get a number. The thrill of approaching X amount of women and getting Y amount of numbers counts for something, right? RIGHT?!
So disappoint, sexual rejection, and that fantasy dream are staved off for one more night. But more importantly that chance- however finite- of sexual success (or at least practice) are all delayed for the indefinite future at some unappointed time as it lays uncalled in your cellphone.
Eventually after a few thousand approaches, he’ll accidentally stumble into some willing woman’s vagina.
Release is achieved. Victory declared. Wash, rinse, repeat.
After enough effort, having laid waste to an entire population of women at child-bearing age, he’ll achieve some meaningful level of sexual confidence to where it’ll build into a snowball effect.
At long last he has achieved the promise land! After several years, maxed out credit cards, regular visits to Miss Rose Mary Palm, and a thousand annoyed women!
Hallelujah .
But there’s an easier way (Dear Buddha you better hope your bulbous belly there is) to deal with Sexual Anxiety.
In my next article for Captain Jack, I’ll write about Sexual Escalation.
-The Asian Playboy”
You can read more of Asian Playboy’s articles at his blog: http://theasianplayboy.blogspot.com/
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Um…btw a zygote isn’t a zygote until the egg is fertilized with a sperm cell…
Some basic biology for ya ;P
This is EXACTLY my problem… thanks!