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Keeping It Sexual in Comfort

Posted at January 30, 2007

Question from fellow PUA on the Lounge:

I’ve recently got my A game into good enough shape that I’m isolating and getting into Comfort regularly. Back in my AFC days, Comfort was always my strong suit, so I have not problem building trust and connection. What I do have a problem with is keeping it sexual, pumping buying temperature, and avoiding being a friend or therapist.

So, besides kino, how do I keep the sexual vibe alive and growing during comfort?

I use my version of “Strawberry Fields” and “Rings on Fingers” to frame things as sexual early on…I’d suggest not talking too much about sex as it can actually backfire.

Here’s how: Puts too much pressure on her for the second meeting (less of a concern for a SNL BUT it can make the Bounce harder if she goes out of state before the bounce) and/or it can also lessen the sexual tension for some females.

More is less. Subtlety builds the tension.

Framing the interaction as sexual is great…framing both of you as sexual beings who are cosmically attracted to one another is even better.

After two sexual questions in the question game I stop and get on with the rest of comfort.

In comfort, you can outright tell her she’s sexy (Juggler-style SOI) and this will let her know you ain’t in it for the good conversation.

One of my faves, especially if she’s yakking about something I don’t care about, is “I’m sorry, I didn’t hear anything you said for the last 5 minutes…I was looking at your lips.” (An example of this in a sarge is in my “LR: OMG! Peetey is dead.”)

Also, you should probably be kissing or doing a “phantom kiss.”

All that said, allow your early sexual framing and kino do the majority of the work.

~ CJ ~