Getting Really Good, Really Fast… A New Blueprint to Lays!
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I believe EVERY word of these first few parapraphs…
If you want to get really good, really fast then lay reports are by far the most important thing you should be studying.
Lay reports cannot be matched when it comes to learning how to get good with women. With lay reports you get to see the actual dialogue and the actual context of how the guy got the girl. These are things you cannot learn from reading another 200 pages of pick-up theory.
Reading other’s Lay Reports, dissecting them and trying to get an overall sense of what REALLY happened is something I’ve been doing for several years now. I even go back and read MY OWN from time to time, partly for motivation, partly for inspiration but mainly because when doing so I notice patterns.
Success Patterns I can distill and use over and over again.
But, what if you don’t have my eyes for noticing these kinds of things? Well, Sinn has just released his “Lay Report Book” and it is killer.
If you buy through the link below by Monday please keep your receipt and send it to captainjackpua AT gmail.com - I’ve got a surprise bonus for you.
Captain Jack
JUST Be Yourself
Bet you’ve never heard that one, have you? Haaa….
Women’s magazines and “mainstream, clorox-bleached” dating gurus often say it… Hell, I’ve even heard girls say it after debriefing them.
Are they all wrong?
Well, yes (mainly because they disagree with me)…
AND NO!
You see, from the Females’ viewpoint, when she HAS been picked up that’s exactly how it appeared to her.
Let me give you the run down of how these things happen in “real” life:
Some dude was just being himself and chatting her and as he was she thought to herself, “I’m horny, he’s not weirding me out… I should start sending him signals.”
So, she twirls her hair. Thrusts her chest (or ass) out. Plays with her hair. Touches his arm. Laughs at all of his “jokes.” Leans into him…
Of course, he completely misses all of her signals and concentrates on saying something funny or cool.
At some point, usually after she’s given up all hope of getting laid that night, he thinks. “Damn, this chick has been talking to me for nearly an hour. I wonder if she likes me? Probably not, but I should try to get her email or something anyway.”
He gets her email or phone number. Then chases her for a few weeks trying to take her to dinner or a movie. She hasn’t been laid in weeks (or months) and she is super horny and the batteries have run out on her vibrator, so finally, she decides the offer of a movie and dinner for free is the perfect way to try to get laid without scaring the guy off or being considered a slut.
She responds to his 5th voice mail.
Eventually, they kiss.
A few weeks later they have sex.
See that? To her, he was just being himself. And, she eventually had sex with him. The massive amount of TIME he spent resulted in her having feelings of familiarity with him. The sex hormones combined to create a feeling of relationship.
Her experience based conclusion? He was just being himself, he got laid.
Now, what about the One-Night Stand or quicker lays?
Usually the same thing just compressed a bit.
Now, let’s take another facet of this…
When have girls been hurt and pissed off by guys? When the guys MISLED or LIED to them. So, when guys were “just being themselves” the girls got sex and/or a boyfriend… when they weren’t they got USED or found out they had been lied to!
What’s the lesson here?
The lesson is simple: Do the LEAST amount of work necessary to get laid AND be upfront about your intentions. This doesn’t (necessarily) mean you announce your intentions but if she is getting the wrong idea or trying to set a frame that you have no intention of maintaining nip that shit in the bud.
You want to be smooth?
The SOONER you start stripping shit out of your game the better. If you feel like you are working your ass off in set, it probably shows and then you are not matching her mental template of “a guy just being himself.” This scares her BECAUSE it is associated with past pain and rejection.
After a few months of steady progress using the same basic game plan, strip shit out. See how LITTLE you can do to get the same results.
Play.
Experiment.
For Example: Dump your “standard” openers for awhile. Go out for a few nights and say “Hi” and make small talk for a minute or two before introing your first major Piece.
Another exercise: See if you can small talk your way all the way to a TimeBridge.
Experiments like this lead to pure smoothness.
~ Captain Jack ~
LR: The Power of Drunk-n-Lonely Texting
For those of you unfamiliar with Captain Jack’s “Drunk and Lonely Theory of Texting” here’s an excerpt from LR: Cantalopes:
It’s closing time so Sinn and I roll out. I send my standard text to HBs who I’ve timebridged. “Hi sexy lady, where you at?”
This is my “Drunk and Lonely Theory.” Here’s the theory:
Point 1. Women go out to get laid.
Point 2. 99.9% of guys’ game sucks.
Point 3. A female CANNOT have sex with a guy she is not attracted to. Due to Point 2 she is sexually frustrated.
Point 4. At 2:30 am the girl is at home, sexually frustrated, drunk and lonely.This is the best time to send a text.
So one of my friends is in town from London and we’ve just finished a night of Gaming. We’re at the local Steak-n-Shake and I’m going over a few technical points with him… His body language is perfect. He spins the girl. He locks in. He can stay in set pretty much as long as he wants to. He’s already got pretty good game but I notice a few things that will help him skyrocket in the next few months and I’m giving him the breakdown.
After that I begin my usual thread about how females are sexual beings. That they want sex and they are extremely frustrated. Then, I tell him about Drunk-n-Lonely Texting…
He ran a pretty good two-set and he TimeBridged her. Her friend was really hot, too, but I don’t wing so he’s forced to handle them all by their lonesome.
I have him text her and this is how it went down (I had him email me the text message exchange):
IrishPUA : Hey Sexy (notice the complexity of this text message I had him send!!! haaa)
Hotel Girl : Hey!!
IrishPUA: Where you at?
Hotel Girl : Plano
IrishPUA :
Hotel Girl : Why the sad Face?
IrishPUA : I’m not really tired, we should hang out
Hotel Girl : I’m in Plano @ a hotel
IrishPUA : Come see me
Hotel Girl : Come see me!!
IrishPUA : What hotel?
Hotel Girl : X inn I-XX and X-Street
IrishPUA : Ok sexy what room number?
Hotel Girl : 214 you coming
IrishPUA : My friend is dropping me off, be there in 20
Hotel Girl : K
Hotel Girl : Where you at?
Now, this is NOT a rare occurence. I do this quite often. Remember, they went out for SOMETHING and they didn’t get it! But, out of the blue, comes a man… A man with balls… A man who LIKES them and wants to make them feel good!
By going to bang her you are making the world a better place! She will feel less frustrated, more feminine and satisfied. This means she’ll be nicer to everyone around her the next day. All of those people will be happier that a girl was nicer to them than usual… Puppies and babies will be happy.
It’s a giant ripple effect!
Back to our story… She calls as we are nearing the exit. He tells me it sounded like someone else was in there.
Hmmm…
I have to make a decision. Do I have him go it alone for experience’s sake? Or, do I roll in so I can occupy the friend to give him more chances to escalate.
We debate a bit and then I decide to throw it back to the girls. I have him text her something like, “Do you want my friend to come in too?”
She says, “Sure.”
We go in. The obstacle is hotter than I remember. This is a good thing. She has nice blue eyes, is skinny with big tits and that long wavy type hair I dig.
My friend immediately lays down on his Target’s bed. I sit towards the edge of the obstacle’s bed and we begin chatting.
To make a long story short I elicit her values, run the cosmo pattern and two other standard pieces. I do a few kino tests and she is responsive.
At one point she says she’s going to sleep and turns and lays on her pillow facing me. I touch her hand and she looks at me with a submissive look (don’t know how else to describe it). I grab her hand and she interlocks her fingers with mine. I whisper, “Come closer.” she inches forward a bit on her pillow and I kiss her.
From there I did a lot of whispering in between kissing, saying things like:
“This will be our secret.”
“Don’t worry they have no idea what’s happening over here.”
“They’re making out, too. So, this is ok.”
She kept saying stuff like, “We have to be good. I have a date tomorrow night.”
I’d respond, “Since nobody else knows about this, it technically never happend.”
I put my hand down the back of her sweats and wrap all the way around her tiny ass and touch her pussy. Super wet. I begin fingering it and she’s breathing heavy.
After a minute of that I put her hand on my cock and say, “Look what you’ve done to me.” She starts rubbing it and slowly moving her hips.
She turns around puts her ass on it. I pull down her sweats slowly. She wiggles her hips and I push it in.
At one point I was slowly fucking her from behind and she was trying to pretend like nothing was happening and still trying to talk to her friend in the other bed. Haa.
She said, “We shouldn’t be doing this, but I’m going to cum…” and that made me get close to coming and then I realized I didn’t have a condom on!!!
I put one on and re-entered.
But, with the other girl interrupting I never really got to tear it up. Oh well, another time.
My friend got LMR. In hindsight I realized that she wanted to know if WE were fucking because if we were then she would’ve given in. I believe this because several times my friend’s Target tried to use code phrases and shit to ask her friend if we were or had fucked but my girl missed them and so did I.
Then again on Sat. night I used Drunk-n-Lonely texting to pull a tall, hot, innocent looking girl. I was pooped from thurs and friday but got bored sat. night around midnight so I headed to a local venue.
I opened my second set (first set was a no-go) at 1:40a.m. and talked with her till closing. I opened her by saying,
CJ: “Hi, I noticed you from over there and I wanted to come meet you but you had all these guys all over you.”
TallHottie: “I know. It’s not usually like that.”
I felt like I wanted to tell her why but refrained because it wouldn’t have led anywhere. But, I’ll tell you guys. She was with one of her friends who was all over a guy she’s been seeing for about a month. With her friend so occupied she looked bored so she might as well have been a single AND she was at the end of the bar giving guys the perfect opportunity to open her from her right side without having to engage the guy-girl seated on her left.
From there I made some small talk and then stacked strawberry fields with rings-on-fingers. She got EXTREMELY curious/intrigued when I talked about the Non-Judgmental finger. But, when I interlaced the “sexually aggressive” finger with the amount of strawberries she ate she said,
TallHottie: “Well, I’m a good girl. I go to church.”
Haa.
I ignored that statement. Tell her she’s cool AND extremely sexy and Hookah TimeBridge.
Cosmo pattern and the lights come on. But, she is entranced and stands there for a second just staring at me.
Her friend nudges her and they all smile and walk off.
Good thing I got her number…
Text message, 2:05 am.
CJ: “Hey sexy, it’s semi-handsome CJ. Where u at?”
TallHottie: “In my car, where r u?”
CJ: “In my car too. Come see me.”
TallHottie: “Where?”
CJ: “Best Buy parking lot.”
About that time I get a text message from the girl I closed thursday night: “Come see me!!!” — Damnit. I want to bang her again because she’s fucking hot and I feel like I have unfinished business since I didn’t get to let loose on her big tittied skinny ass.
But, in the battle between Already Banged Vagina and New Vagina, New Vagina always wins.
The Tallhottie rolls up next to me and smiles. I get out of the PirateMobile and hop in her car. I say, “Gosh, I wish I would’ve met you earlier.”
We small talk for another 5 minutes and then I say, “I don’t think I’m going to sleep for a few hours. I’m not tired at all. Do you like Wedding Crashers or Old School?”
TallHottie: “Yes, I like both of them but I have only seen parts of Old School.”
CJ: “Cool, let’s go watch them at my place.”
She says “Ok” and just like that we’re off.
Unfortunately, she gives me LMR so no close BUT hopefully this gives you an idea of Drunk-n-Lonely and prompts you to begin trying it. Get the TimeBridge in every set possible and around 15-20 minutes after closing simply text, “Hey sexy” and see what happens.
After several years of doing this I’m STILL amazed it’s this easy. Try it, you’ll like it.
Captain Jack
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6 Things I’ll Be Doing Instead of Watching VH1’s Pick-up Artist
My buddy Sinn is keeping a journal of his musings on VH1’s Season 2 of The Pick-up Artist. This made me realize Sinn has a stomach of pure steel.
I can’t stomach that show. In fact, I only made it through 4 episodes of the first season before I vomited. So, here are 6 Things I’ll Be Doing Instead of Watching VH1’s Pick-up Artist.
1. Getting LMR from girls. I’m pretty rusty right now so I’ve been getting a LOT of LMR. Sucks. But, it’s still better than watching “The Pick-up Artist” on VH1. That show makes my skin crawl.
2. Watching episodes of “It’s Always Sunny in Philadelphia.” on hulu.com. Sinn told me about this show last week. Super funny. My favorite episodes are “Season 1, Ep. 2: Charlie Wants an Abortion.” The scenes with Dennis and the pro-life religious girl are hilarious. “You really shouldn’t make jokes about the Apacolypse.”
Another fave… “Mac Bangs Dennis’ Mom.”
3. Shredding my ball sac with a cheese grater. (Not really, but I’d rather do that than watch the show.)
4. Perfecting my drawing skills. I bought “Drawing on the Right Side of Your Brain” by Betty Edwards about a year ago. Holy shit it works. I used to be the world’s worst drawer but now I’m amazed at what I can do. Shows you just how much you can accomplish with a superior strategy.
5. Doubling my Hindu Push-ups stats. I’m not going to tell you how many I can do (embarrased) BUT I think I can double it in the next 7 days. I’m starting to see seperation between my upper/lower chest muscles and between chest and shoulder.
6. Anything Else.
~ Captain Jack ~
Sinn’s Game Acceleration Doctrine
Hey guys,
I just finished reading Sinn’s new free pdf on “The Game Acceleration Doctrine.” It’s pretty awesome and I know I’m not alone in saying I wish I would’ve had it when I first started gaming… You can download it for free by clicking the link below.
Read it and come back here to post your comments about it…
~ Captain Jack ~
How to Release Her Inner Sex Fiend
A 44-year old from San Jose, CA asks…
Q: How do you release her inner Sex Fiend?
A: All of sexual framing is designed to get her to be cool with a short-time frame until the first sexual encounter. So, what I’m assuming is that you are asking, “How do you get them to be freaky in bed.” The good news is if you’ve used sexual framing you are 90% of the way there.
First, you’ve demonstrated that she has an abnormally high sex drive.
Second, you’ve told her that she doesn’t REALLY care about society’s rules and regulations regarding sex and sexual relationships.
Third, you’ve told her you’re not judgmental.
Fourth, you’ve told her that you’re good at keeping secrets.
Fifth, you’ve told her that she becomes aggressive when she finds someone she’s really attracted to.
What that has done is created a framework where short time frame sex is acceptable and O.K.
So, you’re most of the way there…
6 Steps to Ninja Calibration
Back in May, 2008 I ran a “Blog Improvement Survey” to which 121 PUAs responded. At the very end of the survey I asked a simple question:
What’s your single most important question regarding success with women? |
Question: A 31 year old, Network Developer from Maryland asked:
Answer:
Ok, calibration is a useful skill because it allows you to baby-step. In every Pick-up you are trying to increase her Response Potential whie simultaneously avoiding Snap Back. If you pump her state too high she will hit a threshold where she tries to downregulate her BT. (Sounds like we’re working on a jet engine or something.)
Calibration will allow you to notice when these things are happening thereby adding it into your unconscious so in the future you can do the right thing without thinking about it.
Calibration can also help you know when you are DONE and you don’t need to actively Game anymore. You can just chill with her and wait for the right time to pull.
But, the question you really need to ask is: “What am I really in this for?” — If you just want a girlfriend or a little more active dating life then I’d forego Calibration drills because the dividends come after months and months of working at it.
If you want to become REAL good at pick-up then here are 6 Ways to Ninja Calibration:
1. You need a Game Plan. You can’t calibrate what you’re not measuring. A Game Plan (or Routine Stack) will provide more consistency to your Game so you can start noticing patterns. Calibration is DERIVED from noticing patterns and then noticing what happens LEADING up to that pattern.
Having a Game Plan also makes writing FR/LRs much easier. People think I have an amazing memory because I can write such detailed FR/LRs… The reason I can is because I run the same basic Stack over and over, so when I sit down to write all I have to do is ask myself “What did I open with?” — “What did she say?” — “What did I run next?” — so what I’m really remembering is what SHE said. The points in my stack act as RECALL triggers for my memory. (Another tactic is I usually write the FR/LR or at least some notes about it as soon as I get home when it is fresh on my mind.)
2. Use Sticking Point Analysis. If someone put a gun to my head and told me I could only write one last post to help guys with women I’d probably just create a link to Sticking Point Analysis.
3. Debrief the women you have success with. I usually only debrief girls I’ve just had sex with because female orgasms seem to be a truth serum of sorts (has something to do with Oxytocin). Standard debrief questions are:
- When did you first notice me?
- What did you think when I first came up?
- When did you first realize you wanted to kiss me?
- When did you decide you wanted to have sex with me?
Then I try to get them on the subject of guys hitting on them in general to see what their main complaints are…
4. Make an assumption, then verify. I used to do all sorts of fun things. I’d look at a male-female set and think, “hmm… wanna open but they’re probably together.” I caught myself and I’d say, “You don’t know that man, go in and see…” I’d roll in and chat and then ask, “How do you guys know each other?” to verify your assumption. I found out a LOT of the time that the dude was an Orbiter.
Another thing I’d do when I used to use Mystery Method was guess who would try to pull the Target away. It got to the point where I could not only guess but I could see it about a minute before hand.
A friend of mine got to see this uncanny ability of mine a few weekends ago on his way to pulling another SNL. I texted him that her friends were about to try to pull her away… not even a minute later they came over and made the pull away attempt. (Which failed because he had moved her, thus locking her in even tighter. See: Sinn’s 2 Bounce Rule.)
5. Could I let go of being so smart and allow it to be other than what I think it is? This question kicks ass. Remember, we are all trying to develop NEW ideas, beliefs, behaviors… even a new World View. Realize that your first assessment of the situation is GROUNDED in old data and interpretations that HAVE NOT served you! So, be willing to let them go and allow it to be something else.
Another similar tactic is to generate all of the possibilities and pick the most positive one.
6. Debrief other PUAs. When I help my friends out in Gaming the first question I ask when they come back from a set is “What happened?” I do this because I want to see if what I SAW from the outside MATCHES what they think happened. When I used to help Sinn with bootcamps I’d have aspiring PUAs leave a perfectly good set. I’d say, “What happened?” and they’d say, “She was being bitchy, she said she’s not really into skydiving so it fucked up my skydiving dhv story. Bitch.” Many a time I wanted to take them by their lapels and say, “DUDE! She doesn’t like skydiving! It was ON! Go back into that set now!”
Once you begin to see the mismatch between what they say is going on and the body language and dynamics of the set you’ll realize that you, too, are probably NOT seeing a lot of the positive things going on.
And, as always, if you have any other questions about this feel free to post them in the Comments section!
~ Captain Jack ~
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Women and Their Fantasies
There’s a GREAT conversation going on over at “Bad Man, Bad Place” that is worth reading. It has to do with the Female Sex Drive. The cool thing is Bad Man has a LOT of female readers and their comments are extremely insightful.
Go have a look, there are 19 comments (including one from Yours Truly). Read it and comment to throw your 2 cents in!
Captain Jack
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Hey,
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